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Sign UpWorking nights doesn’t mean sacrificing your relationship with your kids. Halley Nagy, LMFT, shares tips for building consistent routines, staying involved, and maintaining presence—even when your hours are nontraditional.
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parenting on night shift um so i split
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this up into two different pieces of if
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you have a partner to do this with and
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if you do not if you have a partner make
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sure you divide and agree on the
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responsibilities this goes into place
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because if one person feels like they
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are doing a lot more than the other that
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could build resentment later on so make
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sure you look at things and be
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reasonable if i realistically can't wake
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up and do a morning routine or breakfast
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that's probably not going to work for me
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and might also build resentment later on
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so thinking about what's realistic and
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what can be divided that gets to still
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feel fair for the both of
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you if you don't have a partner you want
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to make sure you're setting up other
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healthy relationships and supports for
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your child to have in your absence and
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so if i can't always pick my child up
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from school or do the drop off at
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daycare i want to make sure that they
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get to do those things with someone that
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they know and trust and also have a good
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connection with um that might not be an
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option for everyone but trying to build
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that in so they do have someone they're
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comfortable with when you're not
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there and the last one goes for with or
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without a partner you want to prioritize
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at least 15 minutes of quality time with
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your child every day we think about
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these things as quality over quantity
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it's okay if you're there not there
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every single hour of the day that's life
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kids have school or daycare you have
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work but what they do need is consistent
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quality time and so children can feel
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connected to us even when we're just
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spending 15 minutes of intentional time
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when we're present with them and this
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can include both fun tasks like playing
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or building legos and typical parenting
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tasks like making dinner or helping with
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homework both are important because if
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you're just doing the one they're just
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associating you with the one so it's
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important to make time for both
