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maintaining friendships um so the first
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thing in maintaining a friendship is
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trying to find ways to stay connected um
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find ways to connect throughout the day
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or throughout the week this could look
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like texting sending Tik Tok
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Snapchatting scheduling phone calls
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FaceTimes um I think of any traditional
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friendship you most likely aren't in
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constant communication
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everyone has jobs maybe children
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families other activities and hobbies
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that they're doing so keep it simple
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find ways that feel like connection for
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you and your friend or friends um and
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stick with that another thing you can do
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is make plans making weekly bi-weekly
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monthly you know
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whatever time frame works make those
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plans and stick to them if it's easiest
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for us all to connect um on a day that
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I'm off from work or you know early
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evening before I go to work you know
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finding a day and time that works and
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trying to keep those
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plans um this could also be a routine
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when you get together you know maybe we
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go to the gym every morning as soon as I
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get off or maybe we have a scheduled
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book club every month but again finding
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that day and time that work for you and
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your friend or you and the whole group
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of friends will really make a difference
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and then communication share what is
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hard or easy about this process with
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your friends you know letting them know
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where you're at in the process being
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open with communication um nobody can
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know what something is like for you
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unless you tell them if you remember
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from other parts we were talking about
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how people are not mind readers and so
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even though something may seem obvious
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to you it is probably not obvious to
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them so sharing what this is like for
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you and if it's been hard or easy or
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what you need