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communication and priorities also come
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into play here your family might be
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upset with your inability to attend as
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many things or at you not being able to
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do as much for them especially when
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you're on a different schedule so part
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of what would be helpful is having clear
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communication again sharing with them
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what your schedule looks like and having
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clear boundaries about what you can or
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cannot attend or do for them any longer
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as well as sharing your thoughts or
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feelings around this maybe it's also
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difficult for you maybe you feel really
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happy with your choice um similarly to
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with your partner again outlining these
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things so they know exactly what to
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expect and there's not a lot of mind
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readading that has to happen if you know
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that you won't be able to attend Easter
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lunch if it's at noon maybe you could
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ask mom to push it back a little bit
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later and seeing if there can be some
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flexibility there especially if she
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really wants you to attend
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same with this is priorities right
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determining priorities for yourself
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priorities that the family has and then
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deciding what you would like to do and
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what's reasonable to do again if it's
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really important for mom that you show
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up at Easter dinner um then finding a
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time that works for the both of you both
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of your priorities can be valued here it
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just might take some compromise and so
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again the element of clear communication
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and choice come into play so both of you
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or all of you can get your needs