Keeping Your Relationships Strong as a Night Shift Worker

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partner relationships partners can be
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the most impacted by this schedule
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especially if they work on an opposite
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shift or they already feel like your
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time together is limited there are two
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main ways you can strengthen these
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relationships and that's through
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communication and
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priorities
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communication practice clearly
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communicating about work schedules know
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exactly when the other person is working
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um when they won't be able to answer a
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call when they won't be able to make
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plans having those in place so that is
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clear and
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known managing
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expectations again if you know that my
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work schedule is this I probably can't
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attend something at the same time or
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make it to something before or right
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after being able to communicate your
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wants and needs um this can be an
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uncomfortable thing um and a lot of the
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times we assume that our partners should
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just know what we want um but they don't
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they usually don't and that is
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frustrating but that's where clear
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communication comes in hand if I can
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tell you exactly what I want and need
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from you you can tell me whether you
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could accommodate that or not also being
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able to communicate about how you're
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feeling if this is an adjustment for the
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both of you it might be really difficult
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the other person might already be
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feeling the same thing that you are and
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it might help to talk about it together
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or at least let them be aware of what's
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going on for
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you going with that priorities
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discussing what a priority is to each of
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you so again sometimes we assume our
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partner knows what we want and need and
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they should just get it same thing here
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we assume the other person is
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prioritizing the same exact things we
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are and that might not be true something
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that is really important to me might be
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lower on your list and so how do we talk
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about those priorities and make sure
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that both of them can be met and
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achieved